THE BUCKET LIST

This is one of my favourite films. Despite the theme of loss, the characters travel all over the world, seeing the most beautiful places. It is really a message about love and friendship. One character has had lots of love but not had the life experience he thought, full of knowledge about places he has never seen. The other character has seen it all but has not really allowed himself experience love.
​They give to each other and realise that the greatest gift is the gift of their friendship.

If I were placed in the position of knowing my time was limited, I think I would want to make memories with my son and family and close  friends. Making the time left with them have meaning. I would wish that they feel loved and have memories that bring laughter. For me that is what endures; the physical body may go but the love does not end.

In grief we need to hold on to some sort of consistency and it takes time to work through what is really important. Different things have huge importance at specific times. Senses are heightened away from the visual, smell, sounds, touch become so important. Initially it is some way of keeping the sense of the deceased alive, because the loss is so difficult to comprehend  at an emotional level.

My wish would be to create experiences that over time they could remember and smile and laugh and know how much I loved them.  There are places in the world I would love to see, but it is more about how you feel in the experience. There is really such beauty in the most simple things.

Day to day life is so very busy, constantly rushing from place to place but, we can.... if we just take a moment, notice something beautiful.  Notice the robin singing his heart out in the tree outside the office. Notice a child's laughter in the park, notice that even now in the month of January when the sky is grey the snowdrops and daffodils are pushing through the earth as they do every year.

It is interesting that when we are on holiday or have time off our senses become more aware.  We really don't need time off to notice beauty it is all around us and if we just take a few seconds to notice that moment of magic it can stay with us through out the day.

This moment does not have to be visual....can be the smell of fresh coffee, the feeling of warm water on your skin in the shower......

I challenge you..... just try it and feel the impact, it only takes a few seconds.....

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